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BDSM, for me, satisfies a fundamental need to control and have power over another person. BDSM to Me is not a sexual encounter. It is erotic yes, but for me it is not filling some sexual experience that is lacking. I am a sexual and sensual person but I have a need that goes far deeper than a sexual experience.
BDSM gives me a greater sense of self-awareness and self-expansion that no other life experience can match. I have grown and matured through the lifestyle. I have learned many things and I have many more to learn.
My attraction to BDSM comes from the intensity that comes from the power exchange between my slave and myself. This intensity has carried over into many aspects of my day-to-day life. Because of this, I live the lifestyle 24/7 not just in the bedroom or dungeon but every moment of my life.
BDSM has helped me discover many new realities in myself; it has heightened my awareness of my own power and ability.
I wanted to learn more about the lifestyle as well. I wanted to grow and experience all the aspects of the lifestyle. I did this through reading not only erotic fantasy novels, but also informational books such as The Loving Dominant by Gloria Brum and The Erotic Power by Gini Graham Scott. I learned the art and meanings of power exchange by reading the psychology of the lifestyle not just the erotic fantasies that many believe the lifestyle is all about.
Knowledge is the power. Through these readings, I have learned that my power comes from my knowledge. I am not finished with my path of learning and I hope I will never feel I have learned it all. And anyone who thinks they know it all is a fool.
I am most happy when I obtain some new bit of knowledge and then applying that knowledge to my life. It is a feeling that cannot be expressed with mere words. It is a feeling though, that drives me to learn more. The more I learn, the more I want to learn.
I have learned from my mistakes and many of those mistakes were made because I thought I knew what I was doing. I was wrong. I needed to learn more before I could make those mistakes go away.
I have learned that communication is the key to living the BDSM lifestyle. I thought my communication skills through verbal communication were good. I learned quickly that I could better communicate through the written word.
BDSM has helped me discover many new realities in myself; it has heightened my awareness of my own power and ability.
I am no longer looking for lifestyle submissives. Please feel free to contact Me but know what you are dealing with when you do. I am a professional dominatrix.